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What happens when you take time to grow

I miss it. I miss my boys’ younger ages. I miss reading to them for hours after they begged me to sit on the floor with them.

I miss reading to them for hours after they begged me to sit on the floor with them.

I miss the hours of LEGO building, creating.

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I miss sitting at my computer and typing up the details about the fun ways we learned and practiced our letters, we created or the bubbling mess of an experiment we tried that made our kitchen all wet the first time we tried it!

Learning

See, the boys have been in school full days for a few years now. When Sweet Pea first entered Kindergarten I realized how much I like to tinker with the back end of this blog. I took the steps to learn more, spending hours behind the computer soaking up all the information I could.

Sometimes I sat there too long but was always careful to do it when the boys were at school, always giving them my attention when they were home. I slowly let posting the fun things take a back seat to my learning, stopped looking for as many fun experiences to enjoy with them.

Growing

Over the past two years, my boys have gotten bigger and don’t need me as much. They play on their own, find their own fun and don’t want me to be their playmate as often. This gives me more time to work on websites and learn more skills, but I miss them. I miss the time we spent together. The interaction on that level. (Please don’t read that I don’t spend time with them, we do, just in ways other than playing like we did when they were smaller.)

Oh, I know this isn’t just because I’ve spent time at the computer and grown in my skills. I know as eight- and ten-year-olds they just play differently and aren’t as dependent on me, which is nice and gives Hubby and me more freedom because they are growing into young men.

This “missing” is perhaps a little emptiness, a feeling I suspect many moms experience but don’t have the time to acknowledge because they are so busy with life.

Realizing

This post is my realizing that it is ok, normal, a process that some don’t realize even happened until their kids leave home and live on their own because life circumstances didn’t allow them to as it was happening.

I’ve taken the time to grow my skills as my kiddos have grown. I’ve tried to do it on my own terms and in my own way so that I can stop along the way and be part of life, be part of the minute little changes taking place daily, but observing the change doesn’t make you miss the way it used to be any less.

Things have changed…the way they play, the way we spend time together…the ways I spend my time while they are at school.

Missing

But I miss it. I really do miss the precious minutes just being their all.

Can you relate? Will you describe an ah-ha moment you experienced as your kids have grown?

 

the environment we're raising our kids in is much different than that of our parents. We can still give our kids awesome experiences like we had! http://momistheonlygirl.com

Growing up ‘free’

Every once in a while I get homesick for my childhood home. Do you? Last week I posted about being bullied as a child and ever since then I’ve been thinking about the freedom I was given as a child (and secretly hoping my kids will have some of the same experiences I was given – and subsequently wondering if I’m give those opportunities to them, or if I am hesitant for fear of what others may think.) It’s also left me wondering if we feel a little bullied as moms in our mothering.

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I was bullied as a child and what I do about it now. http://momistheonlygirl.com

When I was bullied as a child

Walk, Talk, Tell didn’t work for me, but when I was a child the world was different. There were no such things as the internet, cell phones (well, there was but they were huge!) or Skype. The world was safer. Parents weren’t afraid to let their kids walk to the store alone. There was a higher level of trust among strangers and acquaintances.

I was bullied

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What did you write about today?

Cutie Pie had a wonderful teacher for second grade and developed his imagination from the get-go. Mrs. P. had a very structured day in school, so for homework four days a week she assigned journal writing. They weren’t given writing prompts, but rather could write about whatever they wanted, fact, fiction, copied text from cereal boxes…as long as they wrote something in their own handwriting.

2nd grade writing prompts, both a list of prompts and printable worksheets with writing prompts found at http://momistheonlygirl.com

The need for creative writing prompts

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Merry Christmas!

Since writing my last post I have finished up Christmas shopping for my loved ones, finished my course final project (yeah! I accomplished a major goal this year!) and finished up my year of freelancing (did you know I am helping others transition to new WordPress themes that are mobile-responsive?).

I’m delighting in hot chocolate even though the grass is still green and there is no sign of snow for Christmas (very unusual for this part of New York State) and am trying desperately to get into the Christmas spirit. Maybe wrapping gifts all day tomorrow will help?!

I’m planning to share some fun things in the new year! Things to help us all get organized, to have fun with our kiddos and to stretch our own imaginations as moms.

I’m heading out of this year with this Christmas wish to you, made with help from She Who Lives and her stash of free stock images for Christmas! Please check out this new site I found earlier today! A fun resource for lifestyle ideas as well as bloggers!

Merry Christmas http://momistheonlygirl.com