Sometimes I get caught up in every day life and forget the little things. I don’t mean things like giving hugs or sharing kind words. I mean the simple things in relation to my interaction with my kiddos. I used to be very conscious of counting with them when I saw more than one item on a page or stopping to talk about something we saw when we were walking. I used to always be looking for opportnities to share with them.
Lately, however, I’ve been tired. I see them playing well together, and instead of watching and/or joining in, I go and do the laundry or the dishes. Not that that in itself is bad, but I find at the end of the day that sometimes I’ve chosen to do other things rather than have fun with my boys.
Writing that makes me feel like something other than a great mom. However, I know from talking with other moms that this is entirely normal. Having posted about it, though, I hope to be held mentally accountable and to be conscious about being present and seeking out opportunities and experiences to share with them. I want to be a part of their fun memories, not the mom who was always doing chores…These guys are worth not doing chores!
I feel the same way. Sometimes I get so caught up in the "maintaining" I forget the fun. When I go to bed and feel like all I've done is wipe, wash, and pick up I feel terrible. I, too, want to be the fun mom who plays so thank you for the reminder!
Absolutely! Chores get abandoned daily in this house. It's the kids that are important, the chores can wait!!
CJ xx
that is a good reminder..I need to work on this as well, now with three boys in the house, i feel like I need to keep up with chores or it will be chaos, but maybe that's just my way of feeling sane. I want to be a more fun mom too!!
I agree. Not like I can claim that my nose is to the grindstone doing chores every minute of the day, but I do find that more often that I would probably like I am doing the chores inside while DD plays outside with Daddy or goes for a walk with Daddy. Most of my downtime seems to be after she is in bed and need to remind myself to have downtime that involves her too.