So I want to be a better mom. Well, sometimes I think it would be easier to get different children! Just kidding. I’ve actually been doing a lot of thinking about this since posting here. I’ve come to the (simple) conclusion that I’ve been slacking. Yup, I know, we’re all allowed to slack a little bit, or at least to slack once in a while, but I think my slacking as a mom started innocently enough, but grew without my realizing it. Either that or I’m just plain lazy, which could explain a lot, too!
I’m baring my soul here, which is saying something because I know my mom and mother-in-law read this – no comments from you, ok? I have decided to try to change some things, listed in no particular order:
- I will try to make showing my husband love and attention a priority. Not only is this important for our marriage, but also for our children to see.
- I will try to relax and have fun. Maybe even laugh with my husband and boys.
- I will try tot let my 2 1/2 yr old act his age. Same with my 4 1/2 yr old.
- I will try to see things from my boys’ perspectives before reacting.
- I will try to wait to see if my boys’ can resolve their issues before stepping in, unless it gets out of hand.
- I will try to put myself first. (I know, this one sounds funny, but I honestly believe if we don’t take care of ourselves, then we can’t take care of our kiddos to the best of our ability. It also teaches our kiddos that we are important, too.)
- I will try not to listen to the list of things that need to be done calling my name. (I think that’s one voice I can/should ignore!)
- I will try to to not use tiredness as an excuse.
Just like in my last ‘serious’ mom post, I’m not writing this for pitty or anything, rather to have it in writing, which will sort of hold me mentally accountable.
OK, now, I promise to get back to the lighter stuff……and to reflect that lighter side, I’ve decided to keep this brighter blog design. Any ideas and comments on that would be very welcome! Now, if I can only figure out how to get my ‘Grab my button’ to work!
Hello – stopping in to follow ya per Design It chic blog hop today.. Your boys are darling.. Love your space here.. I'm Marilyn from http://theartsygirlconnection.blogspot.com/ – will love for you to stop in sometime..Happy Weekend.. ;)) TY
good luck with the life plan! I need to try a few of those suggestions myself!
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Diane
http://www.turning-the-clock-back.blogspot.com
Personally am surprised by your feeling like you need to be a better mom since you seem to come up with such great things for them to do and always have such an interesting perspectives on why they are doing things, or how to help them develop skills, etc, but I suppose even the best mom still probably has room for some improvement.
I feel like most of the items on your list are ones that I struggle with as well (and have a few not on the list also). And the first one is key for me as well. As easy as it is to focus energies on DD have to remember that it is not fair to DH to get frustrated/short with him or give him the short end of the stick. I married and had a child with him for a reason….and our marriage should be a priority and I like your point about having a healthy marriage for the kids to observe. It's easy to forget how much they pick up on.
Thanks, Tricia, for a great post.
Found you through Desin it Chic Blog Hop. Your boys are precious. I have a two nad half year old boy as well. I am over at http://www.coltonandrew.wordpress.com. Would love for you to stop by.
Hi! Just stopping by. Following you from Finding New Friends Weekend Blog Hop. Would love a visit and a follow back on my blog: http://blog.writerslairbooks.com. Thanks! Nice to meet you!
I just found your site through Finding New Friends Weekend Blog Hop. I just made a post about this same thing a few days ago! I guess a lot of us are thinking about changes mid-year.