How do you look at your child when they walk into the room?
A friend posted a link on Facebook the other day. Normally I skip by links that seem to be posted randomly, but this was titled The Wholehearted Parenting Manifesto and caught my eye. Something about the way it was written at the beginning made me want to read the whole thing, which is also something I seldom do.
There was one paragraph that made me stop to think, long enough to make me want to share the link to the article and this paragraph…
…it’s interesting to watch what happens when a child walks into a room. She (Ms. Toni Morrison) asked, “Does your face light up?” She explained, “When my children used to walk in the room when they were little, I looked at them to see if they had buckled their trousers or if their hair was combed or if their socks were up. . . . You think your affection and your deep love is on display because you’re caring for them. It’s not. When they see you, they see the critical face. What’s wrong now?” Her advice was simple, but paradigm- shifting for me. She said, “Let your face speak what’s in your heart. When they walk in the room my face says I’m glad to see them. It’s just as small as that, you see?”
I stopped when reading this to think about what my face might have looked like the last time one of my boys walked into the room, and I honestly couldn’t remember. I hope it was pleasant! I hope it screamed ‘love’!
It reminded me to be conscious about my face reflecting what’s in my heart. Especially when it comes to my loved ones. What about you?